Please. I am sleep deprived right now because I worked an all-nighter last night and then got home and had about 2 hours of sleep before Daisy woke me up. Work sucked because the gal that is the most senior in my section has decided not to speak to me. Hmmm... I'm trying to think if there's a possible connection to me opening my mouth and agreeing with another gal on my last night shift that the first one pisses and moans too much? That she's supposed to be teaching me but chooses when to listen and respond, repeats her boring-ass whines and then tells me that she didn't say "there" she said "here". Yah, right! She was a pain in my @$$ all night last night. Wanna' bet that when everything wasn't finished at the end of her shift she told them what I didn't finish?
That's not even the reason I need strength. Mystery has a friend that I'm introducing in the left column as a New Player. I may have mentioned her before but she now has an official blog name and we're going to call her Pixie. She's the new friend that Mystery can't live without so far this year. The same one that one of the teachers emailed me to say that she was moving seats around because of their social energy during class. Hey, it's high school and that can happen anywhere. Whatever. We have a tiny connection to this girl because she has a relative that is friends with Glory's hubby! LOL, that doesn't give anybody any extra points one way or the other, but an interesting side part of this. We do know the relative a little.
Well, Pixie and her mother were living with the relative, but have apparently been thrown out. They have a place to live in the next town over. Pixie will have to leave school if they stay there. Mystery asked Daddy if Pixie can come and stay with us during the week because her mother doesn't have a car to drive her back and forth to school. Daddy has apparently been actually considering this for a week or so, and today he forwarded Mystery's text message to my phone. Like he's fucking asking me. He did call and said that he would need to get information about how long this would be for. If it's just a couple/few days during a transition then that is something that he would not have a problem with.
You see, we have a precedence here. When Glory was a senior in high school her BFF's mother went out of own for a honeymoon and we let her stay the week. We've always had a standing rule of No Friend Overnights OnA Schoo Night. Mom came back and BFF wasn't getting comfortable with the new step around and she started sleeping in her car instead of going home. I found this out and told her that she needs to sleep here, which she did readily but she never showered or left clothes and we had to make her eat here now and then. LOL, she brought us food from her job very often and it wasn't like she was a charity case! She also provided Glory with transportation to school, dance and work about 90% of the time, which freed up MY car for me! Yahoo!! Hey, they were together 90% of the time anyway, we just let her sleep here.
So, in comparison. Glory had a BFF that slept here, drove her everywhere and probably freed up the phone lines a bit. Mystery would have her BFF that is 16, with no driver's license or transportation, no job and enough of a similar attitude in life to be Mystery's BFF into our home? Yes, we have been open to a 'sad story' before but we weren't adding another person to be responsible for. If the relative won't have them/her, then what makes Daddy think that we need to add that headache to our list of things to be responsible for?
He just doesn't know how to say no to Mystery sometimes. I told him that I don't think it's a good idea unless it's something like strictly for 2-3 days because the mother has a plan and just needs those days for a check to come in or a car to get registered or something. No plan-no kid, comprende? Heck, Mystery doesn't even have a bedroom of her own right now! Yes, it's almost finished and might be done by tomorrow if things go like they're planned, but there are a few "ifs" in there that having Pixie around for just might be the thing that we don't need.
Any last minute ideas on topics to raise with Daddy? My guess is that Pixie is coming home with Mystery today either way, and hoping to seal the deal. Any and all suggestions are welcome, even if you think we should adopt the kiddo!
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Monday, December 1, 2008
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
This has been nice!
Jabber got home Sunday afternoon and it has NOT been insane here! He was happy to see Daisy and BOY OH BOY is she happy to have him here! He stuck around here most of the time time, with the biggest lump of his day on Monday waiting for the Kid Up The Street (We'll go with KUTS).
"Hang on, I'm going to do this and then I'll give you a call..." when he calls he says, "Hang on I'm doing this next and I'll be back at x:30 and then I'll give you a call." KUTS is two years older than Jabber but either it's the lack of parenting that he's had or he is naturally as high strung as Jabber is and people give up on making a difference with him. He makes me crazy!
First of all, through the years here he is always better than Jabber, always has some thing that's newer or more advanced or something better than Jabber. I understand it, but don't you get tired of it? Also, since he's going into high school this year I'm hoping that he will separate himself from Jabber more like he did when he started middle school. There was some speech that he gave Jabber about "Since I'm OLDER than you, and I'm in middle school now..." I'm hoping that he'll give him the same speech about high school.
I just love hearing him walking Jabber home and out in front of my house he tells him something like "Just do it and then tell them that you didn't. I'll tell them that you didn't and they always believe me." Yes, he does know when to brown-nose.
Basically what I want to say is that I hope that Jabber won't do this crap waiting around for this kid. He is MUCH nicer than KUTS will ever be and I would rather that there were distance between them because I don't think he's a good role model or friend to my kid. You heard me, my kid. Sometimes Mama Bear doesn't care who birthed the cub!
We've gone to the movies and hung out here a bit. He was bored enough of the time but didn't want to do other things in case KUTS called him. That and he was on the phone CONSTANTLY with these two girls! He very politely came to me after about an hour on and off the phone and told me that the girls told him that he should come over to see them at their house. LOL, he was being so certain about his manners while he told me, and you can tell it was just in case that would make a difference, but of course the answer was no because the girls were home without an adult! I told him they could come over here and hang out, but since he demo'd the family room ceiling and walls (It's going to become his bedroom downstairs) there really is not a place to go. Once the rooms are done downstairs the family room will go back into the unfinished basement room. LOL, they ought to move it now, right?! But they could play basketball and mess around out in front here. He declined to invite them, and I get it. He's 12, not 5!
"Hang on, I'm going to do this and then I'll give you a call..." when he calls he says, "Hang on I'm doing this next and I'll be back at x:30 and then I'll give you a call." KUTS is two years older than Jabber but either it's the lack of parenting that he's had or he is naturally as high strung as Jabber is and people give up on making a difference with him. He makes me crazy!
First of all, through the years here he is always better than Jabber, always has some thing that's newer or more advanced or something better than Jabber. I understand it, but don't you get tired of it? Also, since he's going into high school this year I'm hoping that he will separate himself from Jabber more like he did when he started middle school. There was some speech that he gave Jabber about "Since I'm OLDER than you, and I'm in middle school now..." I'm hoping that he'll give him the same speech about high school.
I just love hearing him walking Jabber home and out in front of my house he tells him something like "Just do it and then tell them that you didn't. I'll tell them that you didn't and they always believe me." Yes, he does know when to brown-nose.
Basically what I want to say is that I hope that Jabber won't do this crap waiting around for this kid. He is MUCH nicer than KUTS will ever be and I would rather that there were distance between them because I don't think he's a good role model or friend to my kid. You heard me, my kid. Sometimes Mama Bear doesn't care who birthed the cub!
We've gone to the movies and hung out here a bit. He was bored enough of the time but didn't want to do other things in case KUTS called him. That and he was on the phone CONSTANTLY with these two girls! He very politely came to me after about an hour on and off the phone and told me that the girls told him that he should come over to see them at their house. LOL, he was being so certain about his manners while he told me, and you can tell it was just in case that would make a difference, but of course the answer was no because the girls were home without an adult! I told him they could come over here and hang out, but since he demo'd the family room ceiling and walls (It's going to become his bedroom downstairs) there really is not a place to go. Once the rooms are done downstairs the family room will go back into the unfinished basement room. LOL, they ought to move it now, right?! But they could play basketball and mess around out in front here. He declined to invite them, and I get it. He's 12, not 5!
Thursday, June 19, 2008
I'm going to try to tell this
...and not go on for days. Mystery's friend is her friend right now. They've been friends on and off for about a year and a half now and when they are not friends it gets close to vicious. Gosh darn that social network place! They and their friends use it to live by, I swear! But I digress, it goes back further than that.
Daddy and I have remarked about the friendships that Mystery has for years. It seems that she gets by with the fact that she is biracial. You know, it's cool to be biracial now, right? The M.tV era or something? She's the black kid to her white friends and since TWrecks lives in the hood and that's where she is on weekends then that gives her some clout as far as being 'ghetto'. The friends that she has had along the years here seem to be short lived, and it's probably because she's not very nice to them. She challenges so many things, uses sarcasm all the time, and very often directed at the person that she's speaking to. So much of the time what we hear from the background (speaking to friends in person or on the phone) is selfishly demanding and cutting the other person to shreds. No wonder most of her friends don't last for much longer than 6 months. I'd get tired of that too. We figure that she gets away with it because she's made herself powerful? It wouldn't surprise me if there are plenty of kids that steer clear of her just so they don't end up in her path when she's pissed off about something.
So she and Mary have been friends, and then they had this big falling out after the basic six months. It got ugly in the social network and we heard tales of going to a local football game and Mary walking around threatening and Mystery posing in what probably was the same manner. She who has never been in a fight before in her life. My only worry is that one day someone will call her on her smack and beat the sh*t out of her because she really has no clue and seriously fronts like she's bad. Mary is smaller than Mystery but she is a little smart Alice and I have no doubt that it would be ugly, no matter the outcome.
Oh, and Mary's bf has a photo on his social network of a handgun. When the girls were still feuding and I discovered this a little over a month ago I passed along the information to the police officer assigned to the school. I said that I didn't know if there was anything that he can, could or would do with the information, but that I'm uncomfortable knowing that a teen boy that is probably in our kid's school has this photo of a handgun sitting on a bathroom sink displayed in public on the social network. I spoke to him in person within a few days of sending it, and he assures me that the boy is not a student in our city. Ummm... why does he say he is, and there are not that many kids that you can't figure out who this is? We have two high schools, but please tell me that y'all work together?! I was a little pleased to find that Mystery and Mary were not on speaking terms so I anticipated that this would hopefully not be a close issue for us.
The girls have been off and on with this being maybe the 4th time back "on". It appears from their transparent social networking (where they update many times a day and if you follow them you can tell how every little thing is going) that they became friends last week because they have a boy that they are both friends with in common. It looks like Mary's new love of her life and Mystery's friend because he's cool with her. Maybe he's got a friend that she's interested in for 'next'. The last time or two that the girls parted ways had a lot to do with boys. It actually looked like Mary was calling Mystery on the fact that she was talking to two guys at the same time and stringing them both along, including lies that she was aware of. Somehow it interfered with her guy and that's when she spilled and told both guys that they were being played.
Yes, I understand that's a cardinal sin, but the lies got bigger and bigger and the rift got even more ugly. Mystery had some fallback friends. We wonder why they stick around and just let her kick them to the curb when Mary comes back around. Maybe they can't stand up to Mystery and it's easier to go along with her until she's done with them? Ugh, Ugh, ugh!!!! Right now Daddy and I are just waiting for the sh*t to hit the fan again, and in the meantime Mary won't be visiting at our house unless Daddy is home because Mystery likes to act out and show off in front of her. There was an incident the last time where Mystery was YELLING at Daisy and calling her stupid even though Daisy was telling her not to say that and that she's not stupid. I only intervened by calling Daisy out from the room and then let Daddy handle Mystery when he got home. I didn't need to go to jail that day.
Mary also doesn't really speak to me except to call me by my first name in a greeting when she gets here. Hey girlie! I'm 30 years older than you are! How about a "Miss" on that? Not like she hears that because she's already left the room and what would ever make me think that Mystery would reinforce it? Nada! But summer is just about here. Mystery will stay at TWrecks, grandparents or her friends' house rather than to stay here with me. If she stays here she has to get up by 9:30am! Oh no!!! ...so much for not going on for days!
Daddy and I have remarked about the friendships that Mystery has for years. It seems that she gets by with the fact that she is biracial. You know, it's cool to be biracial now, right? The M.tV era or something? She's the black kid to her white friends and since TWrecks lives in the hood and that's where she is on weekends then that gives her some clout as far as being 'ghetto'. The friends that she has had along the years here seem to be short lived, and it's probably because she's not very nice to them. She challenges so many things, uses sarcasm all the time, and very often directed at the person that she's speaking to. So much of the time what we hear from the background (speaking to friends in person or on the phone) is selfishly demanding and cutting the other person to shreds. No wonder most of her friends don't last for much longer than 6 months. I'd get tired of that too. We figure that she gets away with it because she's made herself powerful? It wouldn't surprise me if there are plenty of kids that steer clear of her just so they don't end up in her path when she's pissed off about something.
So she and Mary have been friends, and then they had this big falling out after the basic six months. It got ugly in the social network and we heard tales of going to a local football game and Mary walking around threatening and Mystery posing in what probably was the same manner. She who has never been in a fight before in her life. My only worry is that one day someone will call her on her smack and beat the sh*t out of her because she really has no clue and seriously fronts like she's bad. Mary is smaller than Mystery but she is a little smart Alice and I have no doubt that it would be ugly, no matter the outcome.
Oh, and Mary's bf has a photo on his social network of a handgun. When the girls were still feuding and I discovered this a little over a month ago I passed along the information to the police officer assigned to the school. I said that I didn't know if there was anything that he can, could or would do with the information, but that I'm uncomfortable knowing that a teen boy that is probably in our kid's school has this photo of a handgun sitting on a bathroom sink displayed in public on the social network. I spoke to him in person within a few days of sending it, and he assures me that the boy is not a student in our city. Ummm... why does he say he is, and there are not that many kids that you can't figure out who this is? We have two high schools, but please tell me that y'all work together?! I was a little pleased to find that Mystery and Mary were not on speaking terms so I anticipated that this would hopefully not be a close issue for us.
The girls have been off and on with this being maybe the 4th time back "on". It appears from their transparent social networking (where they update many times a day and if you follow them you can tell how every little thing is going) that they became friends last week because they have a boy that they are both friends with in common. It looks like Mary's new love of her life and Mystery's friend because he's cool with her. Maybe he's got a friend that she's interested in for 'next'. The last time or two that the girls parted ways had a lot to do with boys. It actually looked like Mary was calling Mystery on the fact that she was talking to two guys at the same time and stringing them both along, including lies that she was aware of. Somehow it interfered with her guy and that's when she spilled and told both guys that they were being played.
Yes, I understand that's a cardinal sin, but the lies got bigger and bigger and the rift got even more ugly. Mystery had some fallback friends. We wonder why they stick around and just let her kick them to the curb when Mary comes back around. Maybe they can't stand up to Mystery and it's easier to go along with her until she's done with them? Ugh, Ugh, ugh!!!! Right now Daddy and I are just waiting for the sh*t to hit the fan again, and in the meantime Mary won't be visiting at our house unless Daddy is home because Mystery likes to act out and show off in front of her. There was an incident the last time where Mystery was YELLING at Daisy and calling her stupid even though Daisy was telling her not to say that and that she's not stupid. I only intervened by calling Daisy out from the room and then let Daddy handle Mystery when he got home. I didn't need to go to jail that day.
Mary also doesn't really speak to me except to call me by my first name in a greeting when she gets here. Hey girlie! I'm 30 years older than you are! How about a "Miss" on that? Not like she hears that because she's already left the room and what would ever make me think that Mystery would reinforce it? Nada! But summer is just about here. Mystery will stay at TWrecks, grandparents or her friends' house rather than to stay here with me. If she stays here she has to get up by 9:30am! Oh no!!! ...so much for not going on for days!
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